The 4 to 8 year itch

Recent statistics (albeit for 2012) published by the Office of National Statistics (ONS) provide a fascinating insight into how modern society in the UK appears to view the idea of marriage. They also give us a rough idea of how likely a divorce might be and when it is most likely to take place.

Perhaps the most surprising thing to note is that the marriage rate is on the increase. During 2012, over 262,000 couples tied the knot. This marks an increase of 5.3% upon 2011 figures.  The average age for men getting married was 36.5 years, compared with 34.0 years for women. Tellingly, the largest percentage increase in the section of the population getting married was for those aged between 65 and 69.

So, what can we learn from the above? Well, romance doesn’t appear to be dead after all. The increase in the number of marriages does come as a bit of a shock after several years of this figure decreasing. Whilst 67% of all marriages were first marriages for both partners, 15% were remarriages for both partners and 19% were to couples where one of the partners had been married previously but subsequently divorced.

If marriage is on the increase though, there is little sign that divorce is losing out. Sadly, according to the ONS around 42% of marriages now end in divorce. Since 2010 the divorce rate has remained steady. The ‘key period’ for divorce, according to the ONS, lies between the 4th and 8th anniversary for married couples. There were 13 divorces per hour during 2012 – a total of 118,140 – with women being granted 65% of all divorces. Around 54% of all divorces granted to women were based upon allegations of unreasonable behaviour on the part of men.

So, the above figures suggest that there may well be some element of truth to the idea of the ‘7year itch.’ They also indicate that men should be on their best behaviour once that initial ‘honeymoon period’ of marriage has run its course. So, as a husband who recently celebrated a 5th wedding anniversary (after nearly forgetting it), I have been warned. ‘Happy wife, happy life’ as they say…

Our Family Department is always ready to offer advice upon separation and divorce. We continue to offer a 30 minute free appointment to all new clients. If you are contemplating separation or divorce, please get in touch.

Disputes regarding children

Whenever parties cannot agree arrangements over their children, it must be stressed that court proceedings should be the last resort. Contrary to common perception, going to court is not glamorous nor is it guaranteed to provide an outcome that ensures long-term stability for the children. Court proceedings are often stressful, time-consuming, unpredictable and expensive.

For the above reasons, any decision to start court proceedings should be made with caution and professional expertise is recommended. Too many court applications are presented where negotiations, mediation or discussion can resolve matters. However, there are clearly situations when these options are not appropriate or fail to resolve matters. In those circumstances, court proceedings are the only option.

Powers of the Court

The court has very wide powers in relation to children but there are four common orders relating to children. These are: child arrangements orders, parental responsibility, prohibited steps and specific issue. In all cases, the court must carefully consider which type of order is appropriate:

Child Arrangements Orders

These orders have recently been introduced and now replace contact and residence orders. They can specify with which person a child should live and how/when the person who caring for a child should make that child available to visit or stay with another person. A Child Arrangements Order could specify that a child should live with more than one person or could specify that there should be no contact between a child and another person. As such, the wording of any Child Arrangements Order should always be carefully considered and followed.

Many parents already have a contact or residence order for their child or children. The introduction of Child Arrangements Orders does not mean that these existing orders are no longer valid. They remain capable of enforcement and should be adhered to. However, if any party affected by such an order wishes to vary it, the court would have to make a new Child Arrangements Order in place of the existing order.

Parental Responsibility

This provides a person with a recognised right to have a full say in all the issues concerning a child’s upbringing.  Such issues could include the health care that a childreceives, their ongoing educational arrangements or theirreligious orientation.  All mothers have parental responsibility but fathers do not always have this responsibility. An unmarried father may acquire parental responsibility by registering the birth, via an agreement with the mother or by making an application at court.  It is also possible for the step-parent of a child to obtain parental responsibility in some circumstances.

Prohibited Steps Order

This order can be obtained where the court wishes to restrict the exercise of parental responsibility. For example, the court can prevent a parent taking a child outside of England and Wales if there is a risk of harm occurring. Such orders should only be made in rare circumstances owing to the impact they have.

Specific Issue Order

This order is made when there is a dispute over how parental responsibility should be exercised. For example, the court can decide upon whether a child should attend a specific school or go on holiday to a specific country. Again, such orders are not made very often

Which order should be made?

In order to decide whether any order should be made, the court will consider the welfare checklist. This is detailed within the Children Act 1989 and refers to the following:

  1. the ascertainable wishes and feelings of the child concerned (considered in the light of their age and understanding);
  2. the child’s physical, emotional and educational needs;
  3. the likely effect on the child of any change in their circumstances;
  4. the child’s age, sex, background and any other characteristic which the court considers relevant;
  5. any harm which the child has suffered or is at risk of suffering;
  6. how capable each of the child’s parents, and any other person in relation to whom the court considers the question to be relevant, is of meeting the child’s needs;
  7. the range of powers available to the court under the Children Act 1989 in the proceedings in question.

A central principle of the Children Act is the ‘no order’ principle. This means that the court will only make an order if that order is better for the child than not making any order. There is a presumption that the court should not intervene unless it is in the best interests of the child to do so. When the court does intervene, the main consideration is the welfare of the child and the court recognises that delay is likely to be harmful to a child’s welfare.

Agreement and Mediation

In most cases, the first step is to write to the other party involved in the dispute to see if an agreement can be reached without the need to involve the court.  In the overwhelming majority of cases, mediation must be tried to help with this objective and an application to the court cannot be made until mediation has been considered.

First Hearing Dispute Resolution Appointment

Once a court application has been issued, the court will allocate it to the most appropriate local court. This is usually the court closed to where the child or children live. They will also decide which level of judge should deal with the case. Finally, the court will list a First Hearing Dispute Resolution Appointment (FHDRA).

At the FHDRA the court will, with the assistance of Cafcass (see below) try to resolve matters between the parties. If this is not possible, the court must identify the issues and what directions are needed to progress the application.

Cafcass

Cafcass are the Children and Family Court Advisory Support Service.   Their main role is to give advice to the court and provide information, advice and support to children and their families. Cafcass officers will usually be at court to assist the parties at the FHDRA stage and will assist the court in reporting on cases where there are concerns over the welfare of children. If a Cafcass report is ordered during your case, it is important that you co-operate fully with the reporter as their recommendations have a strong impact on the outcome of a case.

Enforcing an order

It is not unknown for a person to disobey or ‘breach’ a contact order made within Children Act proceedings. If this occurs then the court can consider punishing the person at fault by ordering them to pay financial compensation or perform community service. Cafcass may also be asked to monitor the situation and report back to the court if necessary.

In very serious cases, a person may be fined or sent to prison if they continually disobey court orders. These powers are used rarely owing to their extreme impact. Where there is a continual history of a parent flouting court orders, the court must strike a balance between punishing the parent at fault without compromising the welfare of the children involved. This is often far more difficult than first appears.